Saturday. 10.1.05 10:51 pm
This is something this guy Dr. Maslow came up with. I think it's beautiful.
Qualities of self-actualizing people:
They see reality, and knowing "the facts are friendly," they accept reality more than most people. They see through phoniness, deception, and "games"--and avoid them. They cope with problems, rather than avoid them.
They accept themselves and others; thus, they can honestly self-disclose and forgive others' shortcomings.
They are spontaneous with their ideas, feelings, and actions, being genuine and confident.
They focus on solving problems but their "problems" tend to be outside themselves. For instance, they often have a "mission" that may be difficult to accomplish but gives excitement, challenge, and purpose to their lives.
They enjoy privacy, withdrawing sometimes to be free to have their own thoughts. Occasionally, they may have mystical experiences in which they become part of all mankind or of nature.
They resist culturally prescribed roles, e.g. masculine or feminine. They resent unfairness caused by social roles and prejudice. They insist on thinking for themselves and completing their mission, even in the face of social criticism.
They enjoy and appreciate the commonplace, the little things in life--a rose, a baby, an idea, a considerate comment, a meal, a loving touch, etc.
They feel a kinship, a closeness, a warmth, a concern for every human being.
They are close to a few people, although not always popular. They can live intimately and love.
They do not judge others on the basis of stereotypes, like sex, age, race, or religion, but rather as individuals.
They have a strong self-generated code of ethics--a sense of right and wrong. Their values may not be conventional but they do guide their lives.
They are creative and do things differently, not in rebellion but for the joy of being original and talented. They are clever, even in their ability to be amused instead of angered by human foibles.
It's not new information by any stretch but I really like the ideals that this ascribes to.
Y'know...I actually try to adhere to most of those...try to anyway. Seems to be working so far.
» Reizar on 2005-10-03 06:01:29
I couldn't help but smile to myself as I read that. It's so true.
» little-b on 2005-10-16 08:44:08
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